Being a parent has its moments. As the father of an eighteen-month-old daredevil of a son and step-father to a ten-year-old boy, I am speaking from experience. It is fair to say that there is never a dull moment in our house.
Becoming a parent is a huge lifestyle change. Gone are the days of doing things on time. Forget about a clean and tidy house — that's not the way kids like to live. Simple things like a day out have to be planned with the same expertise as a military operation. Date nights planned months in advance.
Nothing is ever easy. Having a family meal becomes a chore — sometimes even an argument. “I don’t like this. He got more than me. I want what he is eating. I want to watch T.V while we eat,” are just a few of the mealtime complaints. Cleaning up spillages. Food being thrown on to the floor. By the time you get to eat your own meal, it’s cold.
The interruptions are endless. Sit down to do a little bit of writing, the baby starts crying. Consistent questions — most of them beginning with ‘What if?” Banging of doors. Shouting and screaming. “I need this, I need that”, I need… is the general theme most days.
Night time is the most productive part of the day. When everyone is fed, watered and put to bed that's when you can get things done. But, after the day you have had all you want to do is switch off. Let your mind recover from the hundred miles a minute day you've just endured.
The above scenarios are a typical weekend and weeknight for myself and my partner. And, although it sounds like a nightmare and chaotic
I love every single minute of it. I wouldn't change a thing.
I love the madness of parenting. Having children definitely teaches you how to become more versatile. To deal with the unexpected things in life and to solve problems in an instant. All skills that can be transferred to other parts of your life.
You’ve got to embrace the chaos. In the first few weeks of becoming a parent, I quickly learned that in order to keep my sanity I would have to go with the flow. Trying to force certain routines/schedules was never going to work without a great deal of stress and I’m not someone who enjoys the stress — I doubt many people are. I much prefer a peaceful laid back lifestyle. Stress-free.
Get amongst it. Instead of fighting and resisting the whirlwind that children can be, get involved. When my eighteen-month-old is on his daily mayhem mission I am right there beside him laughing and playing as we leave a trail of destruction — mainly toys and teddy bears — in our wake.
It won’t last forever. There will only be so many years to enjoy the carefree fun that a child has to offer. As they grow older they become less interested in playing with their parents and more interested in playing on electronic devices and being moody — which is evident right now with my ten-year-old stepson, preteen hormones are kicking in.
Cherish every minute. Live in the moment and revel in the joy that children bring.
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